Terry Dresbach

Outlander Costume Designer

Reply To: On Objectification of Sam, et al

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CelticGlamazon
Participant

My fear in using # of that particular nature, are the inherent shame based aspect of them. It has a way of coming across as preachy, aggressive, and possibly hurtful…which is the exact thing we’re trying to derail. Take for instance counseling techniques, when trying to help a person unlearn negative behaviors, therapist often teach thought stop techniques. One way we could to this is to directly question the person making the offensive post.

This is a video about “How to tell people they sound racist”

Ultimately; the point is to Hold each person accountable for their own words and actions. If progressive dialogue is to prevail when doing this, it is important to avoid wording that will derail the conversation in any way.

The next step I’ve found helpful is to question their use of the words/action so that you can gauge their intent: “Why do you say/do that?” It’s like when someone tells a racist joke, I always ask them to explain why it’s funny…because, they typically realize in their explanation that what they said wasn’t ok.

Social movements can have the adverse effect of derailing conversation, and generalizing an issue. By making it a personal approach we can bring about change in an empathetic way.

These are just my thoughts on the matter, I could be completely off base, but I know this has worked for me. 🙂