I’m sorry, but so much of what you wrote is confusing that I honestly don’t see how I can respond. Just as one example:
you said: “Also, it isn’t fair to refer to people as “older women who should know better.” That’s a value judgement that will get you in trouble online.”
*I* didn’t say that, the person asking the question said that.
And then this:
You said: ” You assumed she was being “cheeky” and thus that his response was “cheeky” too. That isn’t the only possible interpretation of that exchange. For all I know, for example, he’s like millions of other men and he likes older women.”
If you read the comment/question, she absolutely WAS being suggestive/cheeky. Geez. And there’s no way Sam could know she was an “older woman” because on Twitter you don’t know that about people. I think you’re just confused, honestly. Which is why it’s hard for me to have a discussion about this.
Have you ever heard the expression: I you hear hoofbeats, don’t assume it’s zebras when it’s most likely horses? Iows, go with the most likely answer.