Terry Dresbach

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Reply To: Thread of RAGE


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<div class=”d4p-bbt-quote-title”>Susan53 wrote:</div>
My daughter is a second-year student at UVA, and you sum it up pretty well for us — RAGE! I also find myself extremely disheartened by the lack of attention this article gives to the shameful complacency of these young men (and women) who are “bystanders”, surely some of them are outraged, where is the courage to speak out? The integrity to do what’s right? What the hell is wrong with them? How can they possibly think this is okay? How can any of them think this behavior is “normal” or should be ignored? THAT breaks my heart, too. Luckily, my girl is a pretty vocal modern-day feminist who has avoided the “Greek” scene like the plague, but she’s certainly learning a hard life lesson here and her disillusionment with both her peers and the university is difficult to watch. I hope the rage fuels her and others to bring about change. The UVA Parent Facebook page is going crazy with fury over the school’s response. Yes, RAGE sums it up for all of us.


What I find more problematic than the reactions of other students is the responses of the administration, most especially the women in positions of power and trust. I find them to be particularly disgusting. All of these people should be fired and then made to stand out in the public square and be shamed for enabling and covering up criminal behavior by their students. Then they should be made to work in community service for minimum wage, counseling and helping rape victims for the rest of their pathetic little lives. UVA’s administration has forfeited all claim for this school to be a place of enlightenment and learning. They care about Thomas Jefferson? HAH. They care about money and prestige for themselves, and about protecting it.

The larger problem however is that the society we live in objectifies women (and actively fosters a climate in which women are either the Madonna ( “50 Kids and Counting” or whatever the h*** that stupid show is) or the whore. Sadly we haven’t really progressed much beyond the 17th century IMO.

Until we as women ALL stand together and refuse to accept this culture this will continue. I cannot find it in myself to blame children (for that is what first year students really are) for behavior that has been shaped by the media images of women as sex objects that they have been bombarded with all of their lives. I also don’t believe we can push off fixing things to the younger generation or the students or whoever – each and every one of us must stand up and speak out and refuse to go along with this any longer, just as gays and immigrants and blacks have done and continue to do. It doesn’t matter what social class or income level we come from – as women we are second class citizens and until we admit to that and do something about it, our daughters will continue to be treated this way. The way I see it, it’s like being an addict or an alcoholic – until you admit you have a problem you can’t begin to fix it.

Sorry for the rant but I am just so tired of all of the crap that goes on daily with guns and rape and hatred in the name of religion. I know we as human beings can be better than this but lately I wonder if we have the will to do it.