Terry Dresbach

Outlander Costume Designer


Terry Dresbach

[quote quote=3827]I don’t think it’s male territory either. With Jamie and Claire, I see it as their relationship being a mutual possession (that’s healthy), mutual respect and equal partnership. When you take the mutuality aspect of it out, then I think it becomes problematic. I think a sense of possession manifests itself in different ways for different people – not sure really how to articulate that myself. I don’t know why, not sure how it fits, but for some reason this topic reminded me of Khalil Gibran’s poem from The Prophet on marriage:

“Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?”
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”

and we think WE are an advanced culture…