my mother was an army nurse in WWII. she and my dad had 4 kids in 5 years at which time, the story goes, she told him ‘ I don’t know what you’re going to do with all these kids but I’m going back to work’. my dad ( a plumber) came home after work and made dinner, checked homework, put us to bed. we lived on his wages and they saved hers – when they were ready to retire, age 50-ish, they had money to travel and live on the beach. you can only be a married feminist if you have a hubby who is equal with you. both my daughters have opted for no husband, not for feminism but cause it’s too much work for too little gain. they don’t make ’em like my daddy any more. and I see Jamie that way – equal.